Christians, Be Careful What You Say On Facebook

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While the Bruce Jenner* controversy is at its peak, be very careful about what you are tempted to say about it on social media. Though your gut reaction might be to post a comment/article that articulates your disgust, I beg you to reconsider. Here’s a couple of reasons why.

  1. Many of you are either looking at porn, or something close to it. I know this because some of the pages and videos that you “like” on Facebook show up on my news feed. You probably don’t realize this, because you keep doing it, and I keep seeing it. Unfortunately, all sexual perversion is a result of human corruption. You have it, I have it too. But you might want to reconsider publicly shaming one perversion when you have another.
  2. Related to reason #1, you don’t understand the gospel. There is nothing wrong about outwardly expressing your disgust at sin. The problem is, many of you aren’t really disgusted at sin—you’re disgusted by homosexuals, transgender people and so on. This leads you to posting hateful diatribe towards these people for reasons that often have nothing to do with Christian beliefs. The result is that we’re called bigots and hypocrites. And we are. We cherry pick sins, and compare our lives to these individuals because it makes us feel a little bit less screwed up. We do this because we don’t understand the gospel. There is a way to condemn sin, but many of us are doing it wrong because, again, we don’t understand the gospel. Please remember that Christ died for us when we are at our absolute ugliest state. “The gospel is this: We are more sinful and flawed in ourselves than we ever dared believe, yet at the very same time we are more loved and accepted in Jesus Christ than we ever dared hope.” [1] If we really understood this, we’d be more careful about what we say.
  3. Many of you aren’t praying for people like Bruce Jenner. If we are not praying, we probably do not care. If we do not care, then we do not love. If we do not love, then we’re in direct opposition to God. In fact, we may not even love God (1 John 4:20). Please, instead of placing these people further away, pray that God would draw them close to himself. In fact, pray that for all of us. And if you’re finding it impossible in your heart to love someone like Bruce Jenner, pray that God would make that happen.

Please, I beg you. Be careful how you respond to cultural curve balls. It is not my intention to be harsh, or unloving. The reality is that many of us believe that we are being “Biblical” in our approach to these scenarios, but we could not be further from the truth. The reason that many people reject Christianity is not because it’s “conservative,” but because we, as Christians, act and react in ways that are genuinely repulsive. Be careful.

[1] Quote by Tim Keller.

*This is not a post about gender identity, nor is it primarily about the Jenner controversy. This article was written by a Christian, and is directed towards Christians—it is important that you understand the context of the article before you comment.

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43 thoughts on “Christians, Be Careful What You Say On Facebook

  1. I think a good number of Christians misread this post or they missed the point. He never said that Christians shouldn’t call out sin. . .he said some people should change their approach. You should come off with with love rather than hate. He is also saying to examine exactly why you are against homosexuals or transgenders. Is it because you know it goes against God or is it just something that you are disgusted with and that leads your to your approach coming off as nasty and with hatred.
    You are always supposed to come from a place of love. .. for those who said they turned away because they’ve encountered “Christians” who spewed hate then understand they were not true Christians . Please beware of those kinds of people. Those are the people who didn’t let Christ take over before they encountered you.

    Also, I encourage yall to read this author’s other blog posts…Christians, non-Christians and the like.

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  2. Thank you. This is one of the best posts I’ve seen on the topic. Loving people is so important and something us Christians so often miss because of judgement when it’s not even our place to judge. It’s God’s. We absolutely cannot expect those who aren’t Christians to act like us. We can’t hold them to our standards. All we can do is love people, and loving them will do a much better job of showing them Christ than being hateful.

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  3. Great article. I love how you don’t tell anyone what exactly to think or do, just waving a sign of caution. We are quick to run our mouths without a filter and end up causing more damage than any ‘enlightening’ we think we can possibly do by shoving our opinion on someone. Every day everywhere things are things going on against how God designed for this world to look, it is sad. If we ran around yelling at everyone for it, we would not emulate what God calls us to as His people. If we stayed quite when the Holy Spirit gives us hard words to speak to someone, we would be in direct disobedience to God. We all can get a ‘God-complex’ if we aren’t careful (yes, even people who claim to not believe in God) telling people our truths as ‘the’ truth.
    In summary, thank you for the reminder to be cautious.


  4. #1 I think what was said was amazingly put
    #2 I am a Christian, I am female, I also thought I was put in the wrong body… I also was wrong. God does not mess up, I am who I am bc that’s what he wanted me to be. Maybe he is using my problem for the good (so i can relate with ppl with the same thing)
    We don’t need to judge, we need to pray. it would be a lie if i said i don’t have problems with it anymore (Bc I do) so if your right with God when you pray for these ppl please pray for me too

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  5. I find many of the comments a little discouraging. It seems that people are either happy with this post or unhappy with it because they are reading into it that it is a stance basically riding the fence and/or minimizing the sin. That isn’t what I understood from this blog post at all. From what I understand from the author, the emphasis is to be careful about pointing a finger while we have three pointing back at ourselves. In other words, pointing to the sin when we’re not acknowledging our own. I don’t believe that the author was minimizing sin nor saying that we aren’t called to address sin, but to do it justly and in love. Not once did I read from the author that transgender or homosexuality isn’t sin, nor did I read that we should overlook our need for the Christ. What I understood this blog to be was to be careful of how we shame others when at the same time, not acknowledging other sexual sins which there are plenty to choose from. I liked this article because it DOES address sin, DOES point to our depravity, and DOES point to our need to Christ. Therefore, I think this was well written.

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  6. This verse is pretty straight forward… The bible does tell us to judge the fruits in our brothers and sisters in Christ. I do believe a healthy correction is need but for someone who is not a follower your absolutely right all we can do is pray. This is a great article!

    “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye. (‭Matthew‬ ‭7‬:‭1-5‬ NIV)


  7. I loved this. Thank you so much. As a Christian I get so frustrated with other Christians and I could never articulate why it made me so mad. This was perfect. You hit the nail on the head. Thanks again.


  8. My question is the same, we are to love, yes, but what does live look like? Some times love looks like putting your finger in the chest of a drug addict family menber and telling them to get help for example. Love looks different in many ways.


  9. I agree with much of what you said. One thing I don’t understand. You keep telling us in your article how it’s because we “don’t understand the gospel” but you never explain the gospel. Why don’t you tell me what it is I’m not understanding? And are you sure you under understand the Gospel? You make it sound like it’s a very difficult thing to understand and I didn’t see where you explain it. To me it’s more about the gospel and knowing the gospel than it is about sin and knowing sin. We all should know our own sin.


  10. Nothing more needs to be said….. I believe the exact feeling you posted about. Yet ironically I am and have done the very thing I know I shouldnt. God used you at least to speak to me.
    thank you for being open and obedient to him. Spoke volumes just by reading the title

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  11. Thank you for this post. I left Christianity for a long time in part because of the judgemental attitudes I saw there. I have returned, and part of that was because I found Christians who put compassion ahead of their conceits. I have a very dear friend who transitioned to a woman many years ago, and hearing her struggles has broken my heart repeatedly. The worst was when she was treated poorly by people who professed Christ’s love. I really believe that Jesus would reach out to the LGBTQ+ community were he in physical form on our world today.

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  12. Wow!!! I am ashamed to say I ” cherry pick ” You know I never thought I was doing it until you brought it to my mind in this post. Thank you so much for this very insightful post. I know I sin everyday but I also have the grace of God and he forgives me. To say we pick what we want to consider a sin. God see a sin a sin. Bruce needs our prayers and our love. Does Christ love him absolutely He does. He hates the sin but loves the sinner


  13. I’m not a Christian. I’m actually Muslim and I very much agree with everything that was written here. Its easy to call someone sinful if you yourself are heterosexual and will never this kind of struggle.

    I don’t believe that religion is here to make you feel superior to others. If being religious means being an a-hole, then you probably don’t get the point of it all.

    I absolutely love the mercy and love and empathy in this post.



  14. To the writer of the article. Thank you so much for the reminder for those of us who claim the title “Christian.” We do cherry pick, we do point fingers & forget that Jesus Christ has called us to love & be witnesses, and has mandated us to pray for those not walking in His light…including some Christians. With that being said, I humbly ask for forgiveness from the Father and ask Jesus to help me with understanding where there is none.

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  15. It’s easy to point fingers and ridicule those who sin differently than us. But I’m reminded of the adulterous woman whom the religious people wanted stoned. Jesus stated those without sin cast the first stone and consequently all stones were dropped and the woman lived. Then Jesus told the woman to go and sin no more. If a person has been reborn, the Holy Spirit will help the believer be victorious over sin. Christians are to pray for one another and for those who do not know Christ.


  16. You make good points. Especially #2. We need to have Christ’s heart. Love what He loves and hate what He hates.


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